I must admit, I hesitated at first when putting up this post. Abortion is an incredibly sensitive issue and as a result is also very polarising. Coming from a country where it is illegal and living in a place where it is free on the NHS, I have experienced both sides of the argument and frankly, do not wish to discuss my own opinions on the matter. What struck me most about this article and the video which goes with it was not so much the matter it deals with but the direction it comes from. Many people see abortion as specifically a women’s issue, which it is not. This, however, is a man’s perspective. I found it very moving.
“You’re killing your unborn baby!”
That’s what they yelled at me and my wife on the worst day of our lives. As we entered the women’s health center on an otherwise perfect summer morning in Brookline, two women we had never met decided to pile onto the nightmare we had been living for three weeks. These “Christians” verbally accosted us—judged us—as we steeled ourselves for the horror of making the unimaginable, but necessary, decision to end our pregnancy at 16 weeks.
After extensive testing at a renowned Boston hospital three weeks earlier, we were told our baby had Sirenomelia. Otherwise known as Mermaid Syndrome, it’s a rare (one in every 100,000 pregnancies) congenital deformity in which the legs are fused together. Worse than that, our baby had no bladder or kidneys. Our doctors told us there was zero chance for survival.